Raving mad and somewhat slightly dazed

so it looks like on top of being homophobic and the sort of people who watch Big Brother uniroincally, my roommates and their friends have decided that I, as an introvert who spends most nights with her homework and her computer, I must be Miserable and Lonely and needing a Friendly Hand.

And so I am now someone's Project. Titled "Save The Introvert from her own Preferences!"

Blrg. I haven't had to put up with this bullshit since high school.

Tonight she flopped on my roommate's bed, told me about a thing that's coming up, and then stared at my roommates' poster of some hot guy. (Honestly, I don't know the differences between any of them.) She asked me if I thought he was hot, and I said no, not my type. Then the "so who do you liiiiike" started, because we're /12/ apparently.

I refused to answer. She tried to say she wouldn't judge, even though I've /heard/ her say homophobic things before, so pretty sure she would. She eventually did the "I'm bugging you, aren't iiiii" thing that's supposed to make you go "no, no, it's fine" but in my case (recognizing the emotional ploy easily) makes me raise my eyebrows as a hint.

These people aren't seeking out shared interests or common ground. It's like they look at me and think, "that person is alone. obviously they must be miserable. solution: shove them into a new situation with PEOPLE. WE CAN RESCUE THEM."

Recently, I went to see Maleficent. It wasn’t a world changing movie – it’s not Frozen, or The Winter Soldier - but it’s good. And the more I think about it, the more I realize the movie does some interesting things with gendered power dynamics. Since Maleficent and Aurora (and the consent dynamics) have already been analyzed in http://archiveofourown.org/works/1781935, I’m going to talk about one of the male characters – Diaval, the sometimes-human raven.

And in the conintuuing saga of “why I am not out at work”….

So Coworkers and I were talking. Half the department was gone for the holiday, so it was quiet. Somehow they started talking about Gay Marriage.
Apparently, no one actually cares about gay marriage! It’s just that gay people try to force their opinions on people and don’t tolerate anyone else, so that makes people angry! SERIOUS ACCEPTANCE.

I just sort of blinked, said “…right then” and walked away from the conversation. Because there’s zero protection for queer folks in my state, so I have no idea if being out would fuck over my career or not. It certainly might destroy my references.There’s nothing I can say to defend myself.