First reaction was this:
…so, at my new job.
In the Engineering department, where I work, there is a men’s bathroom is 12 feet from my desk.
The only women’s bathroom, on other hand, is down a flight of stairs. Next to the secretaries and hr.
with the tag "is this what they call institutionalized sexism"
edmondia responded, " Yes it is. Perhaps this should be pointed out to people."
My mother, who for the record is far more conservative than I, described it as “presumptive” which I thought was a nice polite way of putting it.
She also advised me that perhaps I shouldn’t bring it up my first week on the job, which while irritating is kind of valid. There’s no point in raising the issue when I’ll just be ignored. I will bring it up, once i’ve built up some credibility.
hahahaha so today.
manager (male) and coworker (female, one of three on the floor) were chatting in the cubicle next to mine. manager was telling a story. story went like this:
His girlfriend didn’t like that he went out without telling her, so she called the police and said that he beat her. he then said, and I quote, “and police always believe the woman, especially in a small town.” then female coworker replied that yeah, she hated girls who did that and went on to talk about a guy she knew that couldn’t have beat his girlfriend, because he was so nice.
and then my brain made the record scratch noise and i put my headphones so I didn’t have to listen any more.
An aside on white privilege: it took me three minutes to notice there were three girls in the office. it took me three days to realize that everybody was white.
nothing quite that awful has happened since, but there's still a pervasive aura of it