WARNING: Sex talk

[splinteredstar]

If only briefly.

I just finished a collection of s&m short stories a sub I know recced to me.

I spent the last couple of hours ranting about the butch/femme paradigm that I don't fucking fit on, how rape fantasies fucking terrify me as a dominant, why I'm terrified to be a dominant because some people think it means abuser and I don't want to go that way , how Stockholm's syndrome is not healthy, love, or s&m and it's fucking annoying and terrifying to see it presented as such, and just generally having a psycho-sexual meltdown. (saint_archie , the wonderful and amazing person he is, got to witness most of this., and helped me through the ranting.)

I'm pretty sure that was not the intention of either the book or the recommendation.

Fucking hell. Sex is too fucking complicated.

Comments

[serria.livejournal.com]

:D I find both sexy. I have to admit, the thought of being tied up and someone having their way with me is really fucking appealing. But I wouldn't mind tying someone up, either. ;) I'm versatile! hehe.

In theory, anyway. I've only done very light bondage play in real life. >< Unfortunately. I'm only talking about my tastes in porn. :P

[starsplinter.livejournal.com]

Yeah, that's part of the problem of this - it's all theoretical, and it's hard to predict how it's going to turn out until I put it under the acid test of a real situation. And I guess I'm always terrified of the monsters locked in the back closet of my psyche.

...sex is complicated.