WARNING: Sex talk

[splinteredstar]

If only briefly.

I just finished a collection of s&m short stories a sub I know recced to me.

I spent the last couple of hours ranting about the butch/femme paradigm that I don't fucking fit on, how rape fantasies fucking terrify me as a dominant, why I'm terrified to be a dominant because some people think it means abuser and I don't want to go that way , how Stockholm's syndrome is not healthy, love, or s&m and it's fucking annoying and terrifying to see it presented as such, and just generally having a psycho-sexual meltdown. (saint_archie , the wonderful and amazing person he is, got to witness most of this., and helped me through the ranting.)

I'm pretty sure that was not the intention of either the book or the recommendation.

Fucking hell. Sex is too fucking complicated.

Comments

[serria.livejournal.com]

I gotta admit, as a kink, I love S&M, bondage, and even rape fantasy. At least in fanfiction. I like a lot of things in fantasy-land that would make me vomit at the thought of doing in real life... lol.

I don't really fit into butch/femme either, I think. Err, I guess I'm femme, if anything, but I don't know, I also like to think of myself as pretty dominant.

Thinking about this stuff only makes it worse. You feel how you feel, and you're comfortable with what you're comfortable with! Analyzing and justifying won't change your feelings in the end, I think.