ARG

[splinteredstar]

Today I witnessed the rare trans variety of the “But I have black friends” defense.  I am, for my internship, required to keep a work journal. It’s supposed to be things I’ve learned, but since it’s me, also features brief psychological profiles of my coworkers and any reactions to social interactions. This is part of what I wrote today.

Arg. So one of my coworkers may be some sort of werewanker. Friendly and helpful and we have similar fandoms and then BLAM transphobic slurs and wondering “why they get so angry.”

 

1. I understand that friendships have their own rules about what is and isn’t appropriate. That does not mean you get to call your friend a “tranny” to a 3rd person who doesn’t know them.

2. The fact that you said you agree with some of feminism (and identify examples of sexism in your own life) does not mean you get to call everyone more feminist than you a “feminazi”. Disagree with the politics if you like, but there’s no need to pre-emptively Godwin the debate.

3. So your friend is both transgender and gay. The “of course” you put in between those is bullshit. They’re not the same thing.

4. “What are they so angry at cis people for? They know most of the people they know are cis right?” Yes. Have you considered /asking/ them why they’re angry? Maybe they’re angry because cis people keep telling them their feelings don’t matter and that they’re not allowed to be angry.

 

Just because you’re friends with someone who you are (supposedly) allowed to call a slur doesn’t mean you’re enlightened or you can use those words to others.  

Blrg.