I gotta admit, as a kink, I love S&M, bondage, and even rape fantasy. At least in fanfiction. I like a lot of things in fantasy-land that would make me vomit at the thought of doing in real life... lol.

I don't really fit into butch/femme either, I think. Err, I guess I'm femme, if anything, but I don't know, I also like to think of myself as pretty dominant.

Thinking about this stuff only makes it worse. You feel how you feel, and you're comfortable with what you're comfortable with! Analyzing and justifying won't change your feelings in the end, I think.