yeah, i think this is kind of - it's the same problem that intersectionality is trying to fix, I think. It's the problem inherent in lesbian separatism, and white feminism, and all of those things. Because we have one thing in common we have all things in common - all needs are like my needs. What I find comfortable all people find comfortable.

People are complicated but we're... not very good at dealing with it? so we reduce it down. Make each other simple, until it's easier.

....I'll admit, "nuance, motherfuckers!" is something of a strange thing to make a battle cry, but.